I have been fortunate to know all four of my grandparents and have even been blessed to have some older friends in my life who I consider grandparents. As time goes on, and as I get older, I have lost some and realize that my time with the remaining is short. However, it seems as with all families, there is the one grandparent or family member that is more, shall we say eccentric than the rest of the family. We have all heard stories about this particular family member or have had one or two experiences that have tarnished our memory of them.
Is this how I really want to remember them? This weekend, we took an unexpected trip to see my grandma who has recently been moved out of the area. At first I was apprehensive, remembering who I knew her to be. After visiting and a nice dinner, I was really happy I went. Perhaps I have let what others have said and even some experiences I have had with her get in the way. I now have an unanticipated sense of comfort knowing that when she passes away, my lasting memory of her will be of who she is today and not for what she has or hasn’t said or done in the past. This opportunity to overcome has made me consider, how will I be remembered? In the theme of New Year’s resolutions, I think it appropriate to keep this question in mind as I make my daily choices in life and especially in relationships. While leaving a financial legacy is very generous and appreciated, leaving warm thoughts and sharing memories is more lasting.